What is a True Soulmate?
If you’re anything like me you’ve followed Spiritual/New Age-ish teachers and websites where healers talked a lot about Soulmates. Back then (circa 2008), the idea of attracting your Soulmate terrified me. “Dark night of the soul” and “mirrors all your darkest stuff back to you” did not conjure up romantic walks on the beach and feelings of bliss. No one in their right mind would want to find a soulmate. That’s why as a Healer who has been around the block and suffered enough Dark Nights of the Soul to choke a horse, I am putting forward a more palatable definition of what I call a True Soulmate. And as someone who has found my True Soulmate, who lights up my life and we’re getting married in December, here is a definition you can go by. Your TRUE SOULMATE is someone who:
Hint: it has nothing to do with the other person and the work you do before you even start dating is the most important
Face Your Truth
If you think I’m going to talk about being positive and doing your affirmations you may be pleasantly or unpleasantly surprised. No, this is the inner work that comes even before that. Before you get clear on who you want to be with and the type of person you want to have in your life, you need to look at what you are experiencing right now.
What is in your environment is a by-product of your beliefs about yourself, your family conditioning and past experiences. The way you live your life on a regular basis creates what you are experiencing right now.
Deep dive exercise:
Take out your journal and get real with yourself. Nothing good ever gets created from being unaware of yourself and your surroundings (emotionally, physically and spiritually). Here are examples of questions you can ask yourself to get to the reality of your life:
Today, I realized that we have things all wrong. The world is a messy entanglement of opposition, conflict and cancel culture. The popular response to most things we don’t agree with is to fight it out--see who can yell the loudest about who is right. The more divisive and mean the argument style, the more victorious the arguer seems to be. Like we used to say in high school: ooooh buuuurrrrnnn. We see this mounting callousness coming towards us like a runaway train. Yet, all we can do is look on in horror and shield our eyes.
Society seems to tell us the louder and meaner we can be, the better off we are. Well, guess what? That’s a race to the bottom. That’s why I’m sending out a plea to all my fellow people pleasers (I call you Empowered People Pleasers, or EPPYS for short). We need you to save the world.
Save, not Sabotage or Self-Abandon
Let me be clear, I don’t want you to run out and do what I did for the first 30ish years of my life:...
Learn from your Archetype, so you can speak your truth with more confidence and feel more alive and supported being you!
What is an Archetype and how can it help you?
Caroline Myss, a spiritual teacher and author who bases a substantial body of her work on archetypes, describes the concept on her website:
“Awareness of archetypes dates back at least to the time of Plato, who called them Forms. The great Swiss psychologist Carl Jung developed this idea further. For Jung, archetypes comprised psychological patterns derived from historical roles in life, such as the Mother, Child, Trickster, and Servant, as well as universal events or situations, including Initiation or Death and Rebirth.”
One piece of my framework for healing that I’ve used on myself and my clients with great success is: True Awareness. We must be aware of ourselves at a deeper level so we can make empowered choices.
Being conscious of how we express ourselves (speak our truth)...
The chaos from the much needed changes happening in the world is overwhelming.
Social media is filled with hysterical posts, mean posts, callous and unfeeling posts, posts about what to do, posts about what not to do, contradictory posts that says what others say you should do is the opposite of what you should do … and memes like this one which actually is my favourite.
As a white woman with a type A personality who suffered burn out more times than I care to count until I finally figured out how to take of myself ... who still wants to be anti-racist while fulfilling my life purpose of making the world a better place ... but this time without losing my sanity, physical strength and trust in humanity ... I’ve created an unconventional to do list that may surprise you (who doesn’t love a good list?):
My To Do List to Help the World
This is not an exhaustive list and it is a process. I’ll be adding to it as needed. Read on for a sneak...
If you spend a lot of time rewriting your to-do list for the next day
If you like to be super prepared and organized before doing anything
If your family, partner, friends, boss or other obligations seem to take up all your time
You’ve been lying to yourself
If you tell yourself that you will get to what you really want tomorrow, or next week or next month
If you spend a lot of time saying affirmations, making vision boards or writing out goals, but they never seem to change your life
If you feel too tired, frustrated or emotionally drained to get to what’s really important to you
You’ve been lying to yourself
How to Know for Sure: Ways to Spot the Lie
Unexplained anxiety despite doing all the things
Chronic aches and pains that pop up every time you decide to move forward
Things go wrong and you have setbacks, bad luck and life feels overwhelming
You feel frustrated and angry because you never seem to get to where you want to go
With the social media and news space crammed with all the crises connected to the global pandemic, you may be looking for something different to focus your attention on.
What about your future? What do you want that to look like?
Who do you want to be when all is said and done?
This is my vision to help you get the creative juices flowing. Note: It encompasses EACH and EVERY animal, vegetable and mineral on the planet. I’m talking everyone, even non-coffee drinkers and Fruitarians.
Feel free to use my musings as the fuel for your forward motion!
If you’re spending copious amounts of time on social media like I am, you’ve probably come across the conspiracy theories about C-19. Although I’m into a good theory like the rest of us, I’m a little bit alarmed at what I’ve been reading.
First, let me give you a quick preamble on my background so you know I’m not a closed-minded arsehole with another opinionated blog about those crazy AF conspiracy theorists:
In other words, I’m open to pretty much anything. If you told me you were joining...
Please note: Since we are never sure if someone has hurled themselves off the edge of sanity or if they actually joking, I will ease your mind right now and tell you this is meant to be funny.