Hint: it has nothing to do with the other person and the work you do before you even start dating is the most important
Face Your Truth
If you think I’m going to talk about being positive and doing your affirmations you may be pleasantly or unpleasantly surprised. No, this is the inner work that comes even before that. Before you get clear on who you want to be with and the type of person you want to have in your life, you need to look at what you are experiencing right now.
What is in your environment is a by-product of your beliefs about yourself, your family conditioning and past experiences. The way you live your life on a regular basis creates what you are experiencing right now.
Deep dive exercise:
Take out your journal and get real with yourself. Nothing good ever gets created from being unaware of yourself and your surroundings (emotionally, physically and spiritually). Here are examples of questions you can ask yourself to get to the reality of your life:
If you spend a lot of time rewriting your to-do list for the next day
If you like to be super prepared and organized before doing anything
If your family, partner, friends, boss or other obligations seem to take up all your time
You’ve been lying to yourself
If you tell yourself that you will get to what you really want tomorrow, or next week or next month
If you spend a lot of time saying affirmations, making vision boards or writing out goals, but they never seem to change your life
If you feel too tired, frustrated or emotionally drained to get to what’s really important to you
You’ve been lying to yourself
How to Know for Sure: Ways to Spot the Lie
Unexplained anxiety despite doing all the things
Chronic aches and pains that pop up every time you decide to move forward
Things go wrong and you have setbacks, bad luck and life feels overwhelming
You feel frustrated and angry because you never seem to get to where you want to go
With the social media and news space crammed with all the crises connected to the global pandemic, you may be looking for something different to focus your attention on.
What about your future? What do you want that to look like?
Who do you want to be when all is said and done?
This is my vision to help you get the creative juices flowing. Note: It encompasses EACH and EVERY animal, vegetable and mineral on the planet. I’m talking everyone, even non-coffee drinkers and Fruitarians.
Feel free to use my musings as the fuel for your forward motion!
Have you ever done any kind of cleanse, diet or fasting regime? I’m guessing if you’re a human being walking this earth, you have.
Well, get ready to laugh along with me or at me (I’ll never know which one it is, so go for it).
I’ve been on a 22 day program to reset my metabolism, because I “suddenly” woke up one day to realize that my waist was expanding out in all directions. I can’t blame this on the Coronavirus Indoor Eating Plan: my love of doing nothing coupled with my love of carbohydrates in the form of potatoes and bread has been a lifelong love affair.
As a half Irish, half Italian/Croatian mix, bread, pasta and potatoes are my religion!! I was never in danger of being too skinny. The only difference is that in my youth I kept the fat at bay with cigarettes and excessive worrying—that’s a real fat burner if ever I came across one.
So, what does a health conscious and determined type A individual with a slight...
Recently, I’ve felt a growing sense of exasperation at COVID-19 inspired crazy behaviours. Why are people continuing to ignore the directives to stay home? Why do they seem to spit in the face of being a “good citizen”? Since it’s in my nature to try to understand human behaviour, especially during the chaos and uncertainty of the COVID-19 landscape. To the best of my ability, this is what I’ve come up with.
I didn’t think that FOMO (fear of missing out) was really a thing until I saw it playing out in this life or death scenario of the COVID-19 pandemic. Who would’ve thought that being told not to go to church, have a beach day with friends or visit family over the holidays would spark a deadly rebellion and a pandemic of FOMO?
To be honest, I have a hard time connecting to this FOMO phenomenon to begin with.
If you’re spending copious amounts of time on social media like I am, you’ve probably come across the conspiracy theories about C-19. Although I’m into a good theory like the rest of us, I’m a little bit alarmed at what I’ve been reading.
First, let me give you a quick preamble on my background so you know I’m not a closed-minded arsehole with another opinionated blog about those crazy AF conspiracy theorists:
In other words, I’m open to pretty much anything. If you told me you were joining...
Please note: Since we are never sure if someone has hurled themselves off the edge of sanity or if they actually joking, I will ease your mind right now and tell you this is meant to be funny.
Obligatory intro statement: I’m not a doctor and this is not medical advice. If you are feeling any symptoms associated with the Coronavirus, seek immediate help from healthcare professionals.
The Coronavirus now has the world’s attention.
Some of you may be thinking, “Oh great, another unstable “non-expert” musing about the virus that is taking over the world. We want science. We want facts. Nothing else matters right now!”
I’m going to keep typing in the hopes that someone will find comfort in my words. I will not be telling you what you should or shouldn’t do in this blog. I will be offering a perspective that may ease your worries and help you feel better. That is my intention.
As the news rolls in about the Coronavirus and the confirmed cases of infected people rises, I’m rolling along myself—on an emotional rollercoaster ride. Some days I’m silently soothing myself with encouraging messages, determined...
I wanted to show up and be vulnerable, and so here is me being vulnerable. Gulp.
I worried about sending this because I didn’t want you to think I was lying to you or that I was a fraud.
The truth is, I haven’t been honest with you.
(I know what you’re thinking: beware the person who says, let me tell you something, honestly… but I AM telling the truth).
I’ve blacked out for the past two years...
While I encouraged you:
I was NOT doing those things.
Don’t get me wrong, my life has changed exponentially since 2017.
I have the most amazing, loving, committed relationship.
I am supporting myself full time with my amazing healing business.
I am in love with myself and I’m proud of who I have become.
I am heading in the direction of my dreams.
BUT, I am also a...
1. Nothing will stand in your way: You are NOT going to allow another year to go by being single. You don’t care what needs to be done, you’ll do it. This is happening now! And you’ll do what it takes no matter what.
You’ll dedicate the time
You’ll get the right kind of support
You’ll show up and do the things that will attract the relationship of your dreams
If you’re not in that kind of energy, you’ll be easily distracted, thrown off by the ups and downs of dating and you’ll give up and go back to “I’m fine being single” before you change enough to bring in the love of your life.
2. Do something different: This may seem obvious but it needs to be said. Stop doing what you’re doing now. Face it, you haven’t found someone so far and you need to switch it up. Your current beliefs, knowledge, and behaviors are not getting you what you want.
Maybe you’re attracting men,...