Truly Eleanor Blog

I’m riding the Coronavirus wave like everyone else and spending unhealthy amounts of time scrolling through Facebook or Instagram, looking for that one gem of wisdom that will make it all ok.

From what I can see, there are some very distinct philosophies to answer the question on everyone's mind: "Why the Eff Are We Going Through This?"
(none of which make it ok by any stretch of the imagination, but here goes)

Unhinged Conversations on the Internet

1. The world is being taken over by aliens and we best let them arrest the bad Illuminati people whilst we wait at home for the big announcement.

2. Mother earth has had it with us and while she detoxes, we are all in a timeout for being bad.

3. Survival of the fittest is reducing the surface population.

4. A group of bad people have created this virus in a lab as part of their biological warfare to get their grubby mitts on the world’s resources.

Which one would you choose? I’m going with Number...

I wanted to show up and be vulnerable, and so here is me being vulnerable. Gulp.

I worried about sending this because I didn’t want you to think I was lying to you or that I was a fraud. 

The truth is, I haven’t been honest with you. 

(I know what you’re thinking: beware the person who says, let me tell you something, honestly… but I AM telling the truth). 

I’ve blacked out for the past two years...

While I encouraged you:

• To go after your passions
• To live life to the fullest
• To have fun and be yourself no matter what
• To light yourself on fire

I was NOT doing those things. 

Don’t get me wrong, my life has changed exponentially since 2017. 

I have the most amazing, loving, committed relationship.

I am supporting myself full time with my amazing healing business.

I am in love with myself and I’m proud of who I have become.

I am heading in the direction of my dreams.

BUT, I am also a...

Anxiety is no joke. Just take a look at what the characters on The Mindy Project go through on a daily basis: hidden skeletons (think Danny’s stripper thong), mammoth misunderstandings (Peter didn’t go to Dartmouth) and high pressure shenanigans (Mindy goes to California).

Thankfully, we don’t have to down bottles of wine or bribe people or hide under desks to cope with life’s ups and downs (although I do admire Mindy’s way with words).

We can handle our mangled nerves in a much more effective way. Here is a technique that I put into practice to soothe my anxiety. Try it and see—you’ll be amazed at how much it will change your experiences!

Mantras

Mantras: phrases or words that help you reach a desired state of being. For example, the mantra “OM”. Look up some Sanskrit words or phrases to find the ones that suit you best. These mantras allow you to focus and return to a calmer state of being.

Repeat them out loud, in...

Anxiety overshadows every area of your life. Not only do you wake up to waves of dread every morning …
When you go to work you feel like no one likes you …

You feel resentful of those who seem to have it so easy …

AND

To top it all off, you’re exhausted by the constant aches and pains and lack of sleep!

So, you’ve taken the bull by the horns.

You decided that you’re not going to sit around and let the anxiety get the better of you.

You developed some ways to manage and cope with these terrible symptoms.

You feel pretty happy about it—they seem like good strategies and you are very dedicated to doing them every day.

The problem is:  YOUR ANXIETY IS WORSE THAN EVER

WAKE UP CALL: These strategies are blocking you from healing your anxiety.

How? Because you are creating habits that pull you away from healing the root cause.

The root cause is the central limiting belief, thought pattern, habit, childhood wound and/or...

This is a powerful live training that will show you in easy to follow steps how to stop attracting what you don't want in potential relationships; if you seem to keep meeting men (or women) who don't like you and you like them or you don't like them and they like you, then this training is for you!

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Happy St Patrick's Day everyone! In honor of true Irish storytelling, sit back and relax while I tell you a wee story about my adventures finding an ancestral grave...

This is the actual blog post I wrote in May 2007 from Armagh, Northern Ireland:

the past few days brought me back to my ancestors. i landed in armagh on monday night at the youth hostel. myself and one other person happened to be there and the staff member. we ended up watching tv and sitting in this living room that holds about 40 people! a little bit strange to say the least...not the height of tourist season.

i tour the city the next day-easy enough on foot.

i admired all the absolutely beautiful churches and cathedrals.

i stood in the mall area-a central green park with the museum on one side and several churches surrounding it.

i walked through st patrick's trian-an interactive centre with displays and info about the book of armagh, st patrick and the history of armagh including a giant talking...

Circa 1996—I’m twenty-two years old.

Scene: My doctor’s office

[This mysterious diagnosis came after two years of non-stop invasive testing that brought me closer to my bowel movements than anyone ever should be. My chronic symptoms—extreme pain and diarrhea—seemed to point to some type of cancer or a need for surgery. The stress and worry had rendered me a complete wreck. I braced myself.]

Doctor: You have IBS.

Me: What?

Doctor: Irritable Bowel Syndrome. It’s mostly caused by stress, nothing to worry about. It’ll go away once you get settled in life.

He pats me on the shoulder. My doctor delivered me into this world—and that is the only reason he didn’t get an East Vancouver knuckle sandwich that day.

Present time—I’m older than twenty-two.

Since my diagnosis, I’ve been on quite a ride and most of it has involved a toilet bowl of some sort.

I’m assuming that if you’re reading...

I’m ok being single.

I like my independence.

I like where I am.

How do often do you say that to yourself to beat back your actual thoughts?

Is he really out there?

Do I deserve to be cherished?

Why am I not attracting the guy?

Looking on the “positive” side …

Making the “best” of the situation …

Staying up beat all the time …

Is Killing your Chances of Meeting Your True Mate

If you’re not willing to admit to yourself how much you want to be met by your beloved,

If you’re not able to declare how much you desire an equal partnership where you cherish each other,

If you can’t even say out loud that you desire to be with a love who respects you,

Then How Will You and the Universe Call in Your Sacred Relationship?

You don’t want to be positive: you want to be taking day trips on weekends with your true love

You don’t want to make the best of being alone for yet another...

Social media is a breeding ground for epically low self-esteem, comparisonitis and basically wishing you were anyone else. Being bombarded on a daily basis by the supermodel instagrammers, the jetsetters who globetrot with their entourage of cats and funny memes and even your colleague with the new blindingly white smile, it’s a wonder we can even get up in the morning.

How do we accept ourselves when everyone else seems to be skinnier, happier and richer or spending time with someone who is skinnier, happier and richer than they are?

Self-acceptance is a magical force—the more we lean into it, the more we flourish and flower and thrive.

Here are 3 ways to start accepting yourself (so you can stop feeling bad by what everyone else is doing) and feel happier in your own skin!

1.  Let go of resistance to what is. Resistance looks like wishing, hoping, denying, criticizing, cursing, raging against, forcing, ridiculing, belittling, shaming, ignoring,...