6 Ways to Love Yourself More!

Apr 01, 2021

There are a lot of sayings out there like “put yourself first” or “you have to love yourself before you can love someone else.” You may read these and wonder how do I know when I’m loving myself? How do I know where to start?


When you start the process of really loving yourself, you have to train your mind and body to recognize that love. For example, you can wake up every morning and tell yourself to “have a good day”, but once you get to work, your boss starts getting on to you for not sending out the memos yesterday or asking where his outline is for the big meeting this morning. If you let that affect you mentally, the “have a good day” mantra goes out the window. 

Your mood can crash like a trail of dominoes: you get upset, you feel like you failed, you start looking at everything else you do wrong and before you know it you are feeling frustrated and angry at yourself. This is where you lose sight of being kind to and loving yourself. So to truly love yourself, you have to see the good in who you are despite the harder situations; choose to stand up for yourself no matter what. 

Here are 6 ways to love yourself more every day, even when it is difficult to.

  1. Journal your feelings. I know this may seem simple, but it is powerful. Writing down your happy moments and your low points helps you to see what it is that brings you down and what it is that lifts you up.
  2. Learn how to combat negativity. Find ways to calm your mind down when you get into a difficult situation. Whether it is meditation, breathing exercises, getting up and going outside for a few minutes, etc. Whatever it is, find your calming space during difficult times. 
  3. Learn to forgive yourself. This one is big. Unforgiveness is a major reason we find it so hard to love ourselves. We hold onto things that we are ashamed of and embarrassed by. Learn to embrace the embarrassing things in life and learn from the “failures”. Learning to forgive yourself and not take yourself so seriously is a big step to loving yourself more. 
  4. Have someone to “spill” to. Have someone who you can call and vent to. Holding in all of your anger and frustration only feeds more frustration and anger. Have an outlet to vent. You can even use a journal for this, but let’s be honest, it feels better to talk to a real person!
  5. Invest in your nutrition. Watch what you are putting into your body on a daily basis. Food choices greatly affect your mood and mindset. Find foods that are energizing and nutrient-rich!
  6. Find a scent that makes you feel good. Have your favorite perfume, a candle, or some hand lotion. Find a scent that makes you feel happy or calm. When you get upset or anxious, burn the candle, put the lotion on, or spray the perfume!


Let me know if any of these tips worked for you! It won’t be an overnight fix but if you choose to put yourself first, it will continue to get easier until you no longer need reminding.





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